18 Things Everyone Should Start Making Time For Again



18 Things Everyone Should Start Making Time For Again

 1. Writing things by hand. Letters to friends, lists for the store, goals for the week, notes for lovers, thank you cards and memos to coworkers. Digital communication is easy and convenient but ask anybody: there’s a huge difference between texting someone to say that you love them and hope they have a great day and writing it on a note and leaving it next to their bed.

2. Savoring time to do nothing. Taking a cue from pre-industrialized society and cultures that enjoy siestas and long, drawn-out, sit-down teas that serve no other purpose than to spend time enjoying the time you have.

3. Thinking before responding. We’ve become too conditioned to require things immediately. Someone asks a question, and we have to respond that second. Such was not the case before instant messaging and comment threads. A sign of true intelligence and confidence, I think, is someone who takes time to consider the question at hand in a little more depth, and then offers a response.

4. Cooking a nice meal just for the sake of doing so. It really trains you to defy your need for instant gratification and of course puts you in touch with something that’s very human and can be lovely if done right.

5. Getting really dressed up for no other reason than just wanting to.

6. Books. Actual hard copy books that you can scribble notes in and mark off sections of and smell ink through and hear the sound of turning pages and bending spines while you read.

7. Making phone calls to relatives for no other reason than to just say hi, and to ask how they’re doing.

8. Disconnecting from technology frequently enough that we won’t be anxious and feeling like we’re missing something when we try to do so for an extended period of time.

9. Celebrating things with long, multiple course dinners that we hold for people as opposed to just drinking ourselves into an oblivion and being belligerent (that has it’s time and place, of course, but having thoughtful, celebratory dinners is a dying art).

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10. Cleaning because it’s satisfying and doing things like painting walls or getting fresh flowers just because it’s therapeutic.

11. Spending time with kids, and doing kid things with them. They just know what’s up.

12. Answering things in a timely fashion, not putting off invitations and requests just because we can.

13. Making sure relationships are actually based on time spent with one another. People seem to be sustaining them through only digital means with increasing frequency and I can understand how that’s important if it’s temporarily long distance but in general, physically being with people is the only thing that will give you that sense of human connectedness.

14. Just sitting and listening to music. We’ve made music background noise in our everyday lives, but now and again we should just sit and enjoy it like people used to.

15. Traveling by train, or if that’s not possible, at least exploring places that you pass everyday. Especially if you live in a big city, there are always little hidden gems around that you won’t believe you lived without seeing while they were a block away from you all along.

16. Putting personal health and well-being first, as it often falls to the wayside in importance. This means, aside from the obvious, taking those personal days and using them to just relax. We’ve made such a quirky commodity out of enjoying napping and relaxing, as though doing so makes us boring and old. It doesn’t, it’s healthy.

17. Planning something, especially with someone else, as simple as dinner or as grandiose as a long vacation next year. You always need something to look forward to.

18. Stopping to talk to people throughout the day. Connecting with them genuinely, as such interaction is really important but is becoming increasingly less common. Turning our phones off when out to dinner (who even turns them off anymore?) and learning to not spend all of our time documenting whatever we’re doing for social media. It often takes away from the experience itself. TC Mark

Brakes and Accelerators

Have you ever caught yourself saying something like the following?:

  1. “Oh, I can’t ask for that much!”
  2. “That’s too much to hope for!”
  3. “I could never get that much!”
  4. “They’ll never pay me that much!”
  5. “I’ll never get that much in time to pay a bill that size!”
  6. “I’ll never get enough in time to pay all these bills!”
  7. “I’m only looking for…”

Those things, those types of statements are “brakes”.

Brakes are good things to have in our vehicles to keep us from running into real-world walls but, even in the real-world, we can’t always be applying the “brakes” if we hope to get beyond where we are, now.

Yes, using brakes is a sane thing to do but, it becomes an insane thing to do if you do it all the time.   Sometimes we need to stop braking and start accelerating.

And have you ever wondered why the above types of statements are so much more “acceptable” more “natural” than statements like these (accelerators)?:

  1. “Based upon the value I offer, I choose to ask for this much.”
  2. “I choose to believe that’s not too much to hope for so, I’m hoping it will start happening – today”
  3. “I choose to believe that if I tie value into my asking price, I can get that much – and possibly even more”
  4. “I choose to believe if I present my true qualifications, they’ll pay me that much – and possibly even more!”
  5. “I choose to believe that if I do everything within my power today, I’ll be able to pay my biggest bills.”
  6. “I choose to believe that if I use all resources available to me today, I’ll be able to pay all my bills.”
  7. “I choose to ask for a fair price based upon current market value and future market trends.”

The latter statements are not just about mere wishful thinking or daydreaming but, rather, about choosing, acting, value, and asking – some of the most fundamentally important constants for us to focus on in this rapidly changing world.

Though the world has significant problems, there’s never been greater opportunities in human history to embrace this world’s awesome abundance.